We Are All Born Superstars

Anonymous asked: Sorry not enough character space in the last post. I feel like I have to change something about myself to make him love me more. And it tears me apart, it really does because I know that no matter what, come hell or highwater, he'll love me for everything that I am. Any advice?

First, *massive hug* You sound like you need it <3

To be honest, I could tell you constantly to love yourself. Everyone should! But that really isn’t something easy to do. Personally, I’m struggling to like myself too. But what you should never do is hate yourself at all.

Have you asked your boyfriend, family and friends what they love about you? Focus on the positives not on the negatives! Tell yourself that “you will not change and you are beautiful” every day. If there’s something negative you genuinely want to change, then you can do that. But don’t change the positives, don’t change yourself completely.

Positivity always helps :) And I know that’s easier said and done, and sometimes it feels like a battle - but SMILE :) It takes less muscles of the face to smile than frown <3

I hope you feel better soon xxx

- Sarah <3

Anonymous asked: I feel like i have to constantly change myself to love myself. I know that that isn't true, but I can't help it. So when people ask me to tell them about myself, I'm at a loss for words because I can't describe one single thing about me, personality wise. I have a boyfriend, and I've had sex (although that doesn't really matter) so I know that I'm at least somewhat accepted by the opposite sex. But even around him (and I KNOW I can be myself around him) I feel like I have to change (Continued..)

catoan asked: i don't know if you've answered a question similar to this before, but what's your advice for getting over heartbreak?

Heartbreak is a difficult thing. It’s not something that can be solved over night. And time is the best and worst healer. Occupy yourself a lot, spend it with people who DO matter. Of course you’re still going to miss and love that person a great deal. There will be times where it feels like you’re not making progress at all, and all you want to do is talk to them.

But stay strong, it will most likely feel like hell - but think what opportunities you have :) You might have neglected some friends, you could involve yourself with another hobby, discover new talents you never knew you had. And you’ll soon realise you don’t need that one person to make you happy.

It could take days, weeks, months or even years. There is no set time. But remember, put yourself FIRST. Because you are important.

Yup that’s my advice for it :)

- Sarah <3

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Just to let you guys know, I’m another Sarah helping out on this blog :)

My personal blog is HERE if you need anything.

Anything you guys need let me know! <3

Anonymous asked: I'm eighteen and I recently lost my virginity to another girl. We've done a lot of things, but I worry about some of them. For example, I don't like giving her oral because I don't like the way it tastes. I feel terrible for feeling that way but the first time I tried to do it I ended up gagging and I haven't worked up the courage to try again. I usually get her to orgasm by fingering her, but nothing happens when she tries to please me. I've tried myself but I can't. Is something wrong with me?

I’ll answer this in two sections;

The taste thing: This might sound odd, but you could really use this to your advantage and play around with syrups or lubes, it will make the taste sweeter/better and give her different sensations too - win win situation. :)

The orgasm thing: (I’m assuming you’re female here, so forgive me if i’m wrong) A big part of being able to orgasm is being able to feel as though you can let loose! So if you’re not comfortable or if you’re  anxious then this could be affecting it. If that’s the case then setting the right mood with some scented candles and music you like or even putting your sexiest undies on could change a lot of things.

If this isn’t the case then have fun experimenting to see what works best for you. What generically works best for most people might not even get you close. You could even go as far as investing in toys and such. I was exactly the same, but I guarantee you, when you find a way that works great for you it’s like a eureka moment. xD

Anonymous asked: I know all questions you get on here are sex related but I don't care, I need to write it somewhere so here is a non-sex related message/question. I got cheated on twice about 3 months ago by my girlfriend of 4 years. It devastated me obviously. It's now 3 or so months since and I'm still haunted and plagued by thoughts and nightmares of what happened, I want my ex to get out of my life but I can't let go and she won't leave. Help me get over her. Somehow. I'm desperate now.

That sounds horrible sweetie.

Honestly, I’d have to know you better to tell you the best way. I’ve been there before and the way I found the best was the ‘ripping off the band-aid’ method. I told them I didn’t want them in my life anymore, got rid of all reminders of them and focused on all the bad stuff that had happened, using it as a driving force to move on.

It’s a bold move, turning to someone who once meant so much and saying “You’ve crossed the line, I don’t want you in my life” but it’s one i’ll never regret making.

Anonymous asked: Okay. So i'm 16 I have a problem that i'm not comfortable talking to my friends about, and you're so sweet so I decided to ask you (: My boyfriend and I, we recently started having sex. (I was a virgin he wasn't) The first time hurt me a lot, we've probably done it about 8 or so times now. But it's still hard for him to get it in, and it also still hurts (not as bad, but it's still irritating) is this going to go away overtime, or is it something that i'm going to deal with forever?

Aww :)

Honestly, it’s hard to say. If the pain isn’t as bad as it was then this might mean that it’s going to get even less and less as time goes by. That’s what happened with me anyhow, but everyone’s different I suppose.

If it really does get too uncomfortable, you could always try lube…that’s always fun. :’)

Sorry I couldn’t help more!

Anonymous asked: First of all I love this blog <3 (: I follow all of yours, and you seem like such a understanding person. Anyway, i'm 5'1", my boyfriends about 6'0" (he's a football, and basketball player, he's just way bigger than me) Everytime we have sex I feel very overpowered, and I know he tries to be gentle with me but sometimes it's just a little too much, I've tried being on top but he'll end up just flipping me right over. How should I bring this up to him? I've been holding back saying anything.

Aw fankoo! :) You could just tell him how you feel…but you could also do it subtly…like try suggesting a few things, nothing over the top to freak him out (unless he’s into that stuff). For example; a good way to keep control and stop him flipping you over would to tie him up! You get to be the overpowering one and a lot of guys really dig that. But talk to him about it first, even if it’s in a flirty way…just incase he freaks out. :’)

Anonymous asked: Hey :) I just wanted to thank you for making me feel a little better, I just discovered this blog and it really has helped me. I think all the things you say here are true and everybody should start being as confident as you are, even if it's hard. I'm trying to be that way, to feel beautiful and love me as I am, and you're helping me a lot with this blog. Thank you <3

I’m actually sat here with tears in my eyes now, haha. I made this blog hoping that if I could help just one person then it would be mission accomplished. Honestly, there’s no need to thank me, you’re doing all the work. :D <3

Anonymous asked: I'm about to be 18. I'm chubby, I have a decent face. I guess i have a non-conventional attractiveness in my face. but. I've had three boyfriends. all lasted a week. I broke up with them all. 1. for my own emotional and personal reasons and 2. because i'm scared they'll want to have sex. I've done stuff before, but only to them. I'm scared to have sex because I don't want anyone to see my body. I feel like i'm ready for a relationship, but i'm so awkward in my body (continued ...)

(continyed from last post i ran out of character space) that i have a hard time talking to a boy. i have a great personality, but im afraid to show it because of my body. im always conscious of everything im doing andeverything around me. i always feel like if i date a boy for a long time and we decide to have sex, he’ll see me naked and wonder what he is doing with a girl like me..

 I was reading through this and it honestly seemed as if it was myself from the past who’d wrote it. I know exactly how you must be feeling, but to be honest, the fact that you can say that you have an attractive face is a great thing…i’m sure you believe in yourself more than you realise. 

As for your ‘non-conventional attractiveness’: that’s how it should be! Nobody wants a clone, no matter how much we’re lead to believe it. Just because you’re not the same shape or size as some other people, it doesn’t mean to say that it’s wrong or unattractive. I think everyone’s attractiveness should be the non-conventional kind because we’re all different, we’re all unique, so how can attractiveness be measured between us all? 

As for the sex thing; I won’t lie, a large proportion of people will initially want to get to know someone from their looks. It’s the personality (or lack thereof) that determines if a person falls for you. If i’m honest, i’d bet my bottom dollar that there’s nothing wrong with either your looks or personality and anyone who will be worthy to have sex with you or even be in a relationship with you will appreciate and love you just how you are.

I don’t wanna go all ‘blah blah blah, me me me’ on you, but before my current boyfriend, I had a ton of failed relationships. I was always getting insecure and running away or people were constantly leaving me for others…not because they were better than me in any way, but because they were more confident and that’s a really attractive feature about someone, regardless of their size or shape or whatever. 

One day you’ll find someone who takes everything you dislike about yourself and turns them into reasons why they love you…they’ll be able to say “I know exactly what i’m doing with a girl like that, because she’s amazing in every way”.